Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Give & Take – Money Makes Relationships Turns Sour

Money runs the world and determines the status of the population of the world. It augments the wealth, stature and lifestyle with its abundance and deprives one of the very means of existence with its shortage. Money also rules the status of relationships between people at times. I have witnessed many relationships turning sour due to this material possession of prime priority. Relatives and friends get along well till there is a need for money and a request for borrowing is placed amongst them. There are many individuals who value relationships to money and are willing to return the loaned amount well in time. But there is a majority of population who value money more than relationships. There is bitterness in them when they are asked to return the borrowed sum of money. The lender is made to feel guilty when he wants the money to be returned to him in the time of his need. His need is termed as flimsy and false by the borrower in an aim to avoid returning the funds. This causes a rift in the relationship and relatives and friends turn enemies for life. My conclusion from observing several such incidents is that lending money to a relative implies creating reason for severing of relationship with him/her as there is bound to be a heated altercation when money loaned by a relative is expected to be returned by the borrower. The relative has only two options – either refuse to lend or lend and forget and feel lucky if the money is returned without asking for it.

2 comments:

RAMNIK said...

I have seen it happen too....does anyone know the art of saying no? How can you push back without being the bad person or ruining a friendship that could ride above the innate parasitic intentions.

Kamo Ranjana said...

Either you just forget after lending or make a polcy not to give in....